I find that this is typically when people look at the last year what we’ve done well, and what didn’t go as planned. If you’re like most women, you’re probably should-ing” on yourself about what you didn’t do, STOP! You’ve always done your best, but now that you know that didn’t work you have a new awareness about what you’d like to do next time… that’s when the magic of growth happens! When we don’t look at the lessons and learn from them? They keep coming back…
Instead of looking at what didn’t work and getting yourself down, I encourage you to get out a journal and start writing out what DID go well and the lessons you learned from them.
Where did you rock it? How did that feel when you did? Whose lives did you touch? What connections were made? How did you contribute to your community? How did you honour your own needs? When you start seeing yourself with eyes of love and admiration (which SO many people have for you) you naturally will start attracting more of what you DO want and less of what you don’t. Law of attraction!
Me? I’ve really gotten super clear and focused on my work/life balance, especially with a new grandson here, I want to make it all work – and I have to tell you, I’m rocking it and loving it… life is good! WITH that clarity and focus… I’ve been more inspired to work, more creative with my ideas and happier! Imagine that! I’ve reduced my anxiety big time and am not in a place of constant overwhelm (been there waaaay too many times) I’m following what feels right for me in each moment, and loving myself in whatever moment I’m in. I’m happier, less stressed and manifesting some amazing things!
I want that for you too!
In the past, I let everyone else’s expectations, feelings, needs and wants to guide my own. I was a people pleaser to my detriment (can you relate?) and felt that it was selfish to put myself first. Thank goodness I’ve changed that!! Now I ONLY please others… if it pleases me.
Make sense?
I’ve let go of SO many things this past year, to name a few…
Caring what others think of me
That I have to work as others do (no 5 am club for me!)
The notion that life has to be hard
Easy does not mean lazy
My value is based on my actions
Negative self talk
In my struggles with mental health – especially depression, I’ve learned that the only way out of the darkness or the “funk” is to dig deep, look closer and get really real and clear with ourselves. It’s hard sometimes. But it needs to be done. When we do that, we see the beauty that is within all of us. We look at ourselves with eyes of compassion instead of judgment. We see how strong, courageous and amazing we are. We learn to set boundaries and teach others how to treat us. We love ourselves first.
Take some time today to reflect on the past year, and let go of what no longer serves you so that you can make 2023 your best year yet!
What do you want to invite into this next year?